He walked into our coaching session smug and proud. He did not think he needed a coach.
He didn’t want to work on self –development, nor did he think he needed to. He felt he was fine as he was, successful as he could be and wealthy as he should be for a man in his position.
But we soon found out that he appeared much more confident, much more in control, and much more smug than he really was.
Most of us have well-developed strategies for how to achieve career success. But when it comes to character development, we’re too often willing to leave it up to chance—and sometimes we all need help.
Here are some strategies to build your character while you’re building your career:
Pride will leave you with nothing. Leaders who wear their pride like a badge of honor are misleading themselves. Pride makes it hard to deal with the reality of your true self; it deludes you into thinking you are the author of your own life. Humility is the cornerstone of great character.
Overconfidence will always bite you. We live in a culture where we advertise our overconfidence and promote ourselves with enormous arrogance. To lead with character, you must be able to surrender to something within and see beyond what you show others. Have enough conviction in yourself that you don’t have to mask it in overconfidence.
If you wait until you’re ready, you’ll wait for the rest of your life. Perfectionism is the killer of progress; when we feel we have to be perfect we tend to experience the gravity of our limitations. The job of the wise leader is to swallow perfectionism. Be the leader who is about moving forward and don’t allow perfectionism to get in the way of progress.
Your character is what you choose to make it. Those who are acutely aware of their flaws believe that character is built in the struggle against our own weaknesses. That makes it strategic to spend time learning about yourself—inside and out. The most successful leaders know their strengths, but they’re also able to confront their flaws.
Coaching is the universal language for learning and growing No person can achieve self-actualization on their own. The best strategy for cultivating character is to find a supportive coach, attentive mentor, or someone you admire to help you along the way. Everybody needs assistance from those that can offer support and inspire us to be better people. When you are in the company of people of good character, you absorb some of their best traits.
Success can last a lifetime but significance can last much longer. You probably know someone significant—someone who’s built a strong inner character and achieved a certain depth. They’re often nearing the end of their struggle, and they work to build significance that doesn’t just endure throughout this lifetime but continues long thereafter.
The essence of life and our leadership is to confront yourself and have strategies that will construct your character—the quality that fuels your leadership and significance.
Lead From Within: As you learn the vocabulary of character you’ll be prepared to incorporate them into your life every time you lose your way.
N A T I O N A L B E S T S E L L E R
The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness
After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.
Additional Reading you might enjoy:
- 12 Successful Leadership Principles That Never Grow Old
- A Leadership Manifesto: A Guide To Greatness
- How to Succeed as A New Leader
- 12 of The Most Common Lies Leaders Tell Themselves
- 4 Proven Reasons Why Intuitive Leaders Make Great Leaders
- The One Quality Every Leader Needs To Succeed
- The Deception Trap of Leadership
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Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.
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Panteli Tritchew
07. Jul, 2015
Absolutely agree that the “essence of life and our leadership is to confront yourself and have strategies that will construct your character.”
Who We Are>> An amalgam of tensions between Who We Think We Are, Who We Want to Be, Who We Could Be, Who We Were Destined to Be, Who We Have Allowed Ourselves to Be, and Who We Have Chosen to Be. So many blurred lines…
Great post and lots to ponder here, Lolly!
Susan Mary Malone
07. Jul, 2015
What struck me immediately here was how well this applied to creating fictional characters as well! These are all the same things we need to ask of the people we create in novels. I just love: “Humility is the cornerstone of great character.” In real life, and in books as well!
Thank You, Lolly!
And Penteli–those are the questions I ask of my characters too! Thank you as well 🙂
biki hamza
07. Jul, 2015
Thank Lolly for this wonderful article always put your fingers on the wound. It is the pride the points that I mentioned performance serves as a the life jacket for us and thank you all once again for the great effort
Dawood Chishti
15. Jul, 2015
Thanks for sharing another great post.